Year of 30, Year of Self-Reflection

Cheers to another decade of life! Late March, March 27th to be specific, I turned 30 years of age.  Many people who know me, know I LOVE to travel and am an extrovert.  However, this time I wanted to do something different.  I wanted to travel by myself, I wanted to commemorate another milestone in age by having a trip of self-reflection with no family nor friends.  I also wanted to travel on the whole other side of the world, somewhere I’ve dreamed of by being mesmerized from pictures.  I chose a well-traveled city in Asia: Phuket, Thailand.

Why the self-reflection? What has occurred in the past decade of my life? Well, several months after I turned 20 years, I lost my father to stage-4 T-cell lymphoma.  Instead of graduating the average four years from undergrad, it took me six years, which involved two semesters for bereavement and time off to deal with my newly diagnosed mental illness.  I then eventually entered graduate school to then lose my favorite uncle also to a different type of cancer a semester short of me graduating.  Both of my graduations, I honored and paid tribute to my fallen relatives.  Close to graduating from my Masters, I started a relationship to the love of my life and friend for 3 years prior Ndubuisi, to then become engaged a year later.  I suffered several losses, while gaining many wins and overcoming obstacles, all in the pursuit of applying to medical school this upcoming cycle.  So this past decade has showed me many life events where a self-reflection should be a requirement.  I simply took every opportunity to seize that moment by doing so on my birthday.

Everybody needs time to self-reflect at some time, if not several periods of their lives.  It allows you to put important things in focus while seeing the trajectory that you have gone.  Do what makes you comfortable while being alone, whether that is a spa date, a good read, retail therapy, devotionals, or anything that allows you to put things into perspective.

For me, I was fortunate enough to combine my moment of self-reflection with something I love: travel.   To get to Phuket, I flew Etihad Airways, with a connection to Abu Dhabi (which I will visit personally another time) to Bangkok, then Bangkok Airways to Phuket.  Both airlines I highly recommend! The service was immaculate.

Enjoy my compilation of short videos and pictures from my trip.

Positive Affirmations: Something to LIVE by

How do you start off your day?  Do you wake up and immediately go into prayer mode, thankful for another day? Is there a specific morning ritual you do before starting your day (clean, cook, exercise, meditate, etc.)? Do you start off the day with your morning devotional? If none of the above, I would LOVE to hear how you start your day!

For me, I utilize my Holy Bible app on my iPhone and the first thing I do around 5 am is read the ‘Verse of the Day’. What I love about this feature is that the verse allows you to make an image, which you can share on the app with your friends or you can save the image and share with others outside of the app.  I usually have these select verse images as my positive affirmations to start off my day, and I also share with my followers on InstaStory on Instagram.  You never know who needed to hear that verse image or who needed to be motivated in order to start their day.  As Diddy would say “spread positivity, spread light.”  We are the light of the world, positivity starts from within and we need to remind ourselves of that constantly.  Positivity not only boosts self-esteem but also encourages us to be kind to others even in the face of negative obstacles.  The image used are a compilation of some of my favorite verse images for the month of May.

Whatever your positive affirmation is, make sure you spread that positivity to others.  We need each other!

Summer 2019 Read: More Than Enough by Elaine Welteroth

As mentioned previously, as Elaine Welteroth is June’s celeb TRANSPARENT of the month, she just released her first self-authored book and memoir, More Than Enough, on June 11, 2019.  On June 20, 2019, it has already been recognized as a New York Times bestseller! Congratulations!

Growing up in my teenage years, I had a strong love for reading books—all types: novels, fiction, horror, and memoirs/biographies along with romance books.  I probably should not have read some of those romance books at that tender age, but it created a passion for me to read outside the classroom.  My passion for leisure reading subsided when I entered undergrad and graduate school.  Reading for fun to me was no longer an option as I was burnt out for reading for a grade in school by force.  After graduate school, I began to personal memoirs with me first starting to read Becoming by my forever FLOTUS Michelle Obama.  Enjoying memoirs more came apart of adulting, I guess.

With More Than Enough, just being an avid fan of Elaine from her Ebony and Teen Vogue days as a reader of her work, I’m elated for Elaine to share her personal journey and advice for others to shatter our glass ceilings, of what it means to come into our own.  In the New York Times article titled, Race, Power, Drive: Elaine Welteroth shares all in new book, the first paragraph begins by explaining Elaine’s life plan: she’d hit the top of a magazine masthead, then move into TV, books, film, and beyond.  This life plan she already accomplished at the age of 32, and the best is yet to come!  Excited to see what else is in store for this revolutionary woman that continues to lead by example and experience.

Elaine describes this book as a “book about lighting torches,” and “[she’] hopes [to] inspire young woman to dream a little bit bigger and to support other women as you go.”

I was successfully able to purchase the kindle version of the book for my iPad in addition to my hardcover copy, which is expected to arrive Thursday, June 27th latest.  What are you waiting for?  I designate More Than Enough: Claiming Space for Who You Are (no matter what they say) as the summer read of 2019.

Please share, what other books are you excited to read this summer??

Congratulations to our BOTWC winner Kailyn

On a monthly basis, I usually donate to a charity that is associated with the awareness that I broadcast on my site.  For the month of January, my celeb TRANSPARENT feature was Luvvie Ajayi, and as a religious follower of her works, most recently on Instagram, I came across one of her posts where she gifted these children a Because of Them We Can (BOTWC) box.  I wanted to do the same for some of my followers, where I created this trivia, and the person to get the most correct answers would be the winner.  The winner would then select a child that I would gift the BOTWC 3-month subscription box to.

The BOTWC box keeps Black History Month celebrations alive throughout the year.  The idea for this box came after the realization that Black history was only being taught in February, if at all, with the same cast of historical figures as subjects.  What happens is the subscriber can choose from a 1, 3, 6 or 12 month plan with size preferences.  The box is then shipped out on select dates, allowing the child to explore heroes and movements that paved the way.  The box each month includes BOTWC apparel items, educational activities and props.

If You want to receive a BOTWC box or gift some child a BOTWC box, please visit their website: www.becauseofthemwecan.com . Twitter & Instagram: @BecauseofThem

Congratulations to JR, the Instagram follower/winner and his selected designee, Kailyn of Pennsylvania! In these pics, the theme was Black Wall Street.  Whether you choose to be the next banker/investor, entertainer, doctor, engineer, teacher, athlete lawyer, ballerina, or the latter, we know because of them, YOU can! Congratulations dear!

New Year,… New Who?

We are officially into 2019 and almost halfway through the month of January!!! Congratulations on making it this far!!!!

January is when I set my general goals and milestones for the entire year. I have some interesting milestones that will occur this year (MCAT, 30th birthday, and marriage), while there are certain things I would like to achieve (a career-job based on my education, etc.). One thing that helps me organize my thoughts , ideas and plans is one of the most simplest items: a PLANNER.

I like to support various designs each year, and this year, I chose The Happy Planner (www.thehappyplanner.com). The Planner is uniquely organized where they categorize the 2019-2020 calendar with:

  1. Personal Goals
  2. Career Goals
  3. Financial Goals

Then each month, you write the following for each month:

  1. Write It Down (Summary of Thoughts)
  2. Goal of the Month
  3. Special Days to Note (Birthdays, Important Dates, etc.)

It’s half the month of January and through all the hiatus of things, I’m just now being able to sit down and write out my thoughts for the new year…

I would love to know….

  • How do you get organized?
  • What are your goals for 2019?
  • What is your goal for the month of January?
  • What do you want more in 2019?
    • A relationship? Marriage?
    • A Family? Another addition (child) to the family?
    • More travel?
    • More wealth?

SHARE YOUR THOUGHTS ….

Helen Keller, Author/Activist

“Your success and happiness lies in you. Resolve to keep happy, and your joy and you shall form an invincible host against difficulties”

“Time Does Not Wait for You”

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“Time Does Not Wait for You” -Dad

I was always told this quote by my father especially in the mornings because I was always late in preparation for my day to school by getting showered, dressed, eating breakfast, and getting on my way.  As I continue to grow older, I hold this statement as true.

Look at the time that has elapsed.  What have you accomplished?  What have you missed to achieve?  Understand that we need to live in the moment but also pay attention to what is ours because “time doesn’t wait for you.”

We all should have goals in life: both short and long-term.  Set up a checklist for yourself of the goals that you would like to accomplish in order to make sure that your time is used wisely.  What do you want to accomplish in the next 3 months? 6 months? 12 months?  When we set our short and long-term goals, we set ourselves up for success to achieve what is destined for us.  Time is of the essence and let’s make the best of it!

When creating these goals, always remember:

  1. No goal is ever stupid or dumb: don’t let people undermine you of your dreams
  2. Be realistic with your goal’s timing (it might take you 6 months to properly study for  an entry level exam to graduate school vs. 3 months to properly secure a new job)
  3. Sky is the limit: any goal can be achieved as long as you put your mind, will, and determination into it.
  4. Never give up on yourself: understand that with time, anything is achievable

Independence (Happy 58th Nigeria)

As I choose to revamp my site on Nigeria’s Independence (Happy 58th), I also reflect on my life and how I’ve gained my personal independence.  Independence as I transitioned into an adult, independence in my personal and familial relationship, independence with my education and the like. What a feeling to be emancipated!!

Independence can be both a positive and negative outlook depending on the circumstance.  Try to focus on the positive and you shall go far.

What have you currently become independent from? How did you handle the situation? Is there anything you would have done differently? What do you look forward to with this new independence?

Independence can be celebrated every year from a country’s perspective, but personal independences usually occur only once in someone’s lifetime as they achieve new milestones.

Showcase your independence! Continue to inspire others through your accomplishments.