Why is it when a lady is raped, why is it the default response for many to demonize her for being at fault instead of a victim?Ask Ebuka®
This quote was taken from a post written in December 2019, but relevantly resonates to today.
Rape is an issue that no country is exempt from, however many countries don’t have strong repercussions to the attackers and not enough protection for the victims. In my paternal land of Nigeria, a country around the size of the state of Texas with a population over 196 million and over 200 languages, when incidences such as rape occur, they either go unnoticed or aren’t brought to the attention that it deserves based on the severity of the outcome. It seems as if the normal reaction to rape is becoming ‘normal’ in the sense that people do not seem affected when they hear the news of rape. It’s truly sad and disheartening. Many people of Nigeria on many other issues blame Buhari, the government and other people of importance for certain misfortunes, but as Ebuka states, “We can’t blame Buhari for this one though… No.. its on us. All of us!”
Certain times when things can go both noticed and unnoticed is when the rape occurs with a person of status. As of recent, I’ve been paying attention and following the news of musician Brymo, Nollywood actor ‘Bollylomo’, and musician D’Banj on being accused of sexual assault. Some are seeking legal matters, while others are fighting for justice because the person used their fame and money to police to throw the case away. When it comes to rape, what differentiates you from the next? How does your status make you immortal to dealing with the repercussions that a normal citizen would have? It’s truly disheartening to see this type of treatment as I listen to these musicians music and have watched on film. We have to remember that there is no criteria for who can be a victim or attacker of sexual assault. NO ONE is exempt.
Other times, the attention of rape becomes noticed when it becomes tragic, resulting in a death. In early June 2020, I see from family abroad and woke Nigerian-Americans who want to raise awareness on Instagram and all over Instastory…”Justice for UWA“… “Justice for TINA“. I didn’t even have look into the story yet to realize what these people were demanding justice for. I instinctually knew that these victims had to succumbed to something associated with sexual assault. Tina Ezekwe was actually gunned down by Lagos police, but you know it’s sad when your mind immediately gravitates to sexual assault. This is where the normality of this concept comes in again. Even “Justice for JENNIFER.” CHAI.
Some mini-stories behind these victims:
Uwa. Uwavera Omozuma was a student who was gang raped and murdered in a church close to her home in Benin. She was only 22 years old.
Jennifer. Jennifer was raped by five boys in Kaduna. The boys who were involved got arrested, but were later released. The family was also bribed to let the case slide. She was only 18 years old.
As of June 9th, 2020, there has been international reports of protests against rape and sexual violence. On June 12th, 2020, CNN reported that Nigerian state governors resolve to declare state of emergency on rape following spate of sexual violence. The very own women that you lack to protect are the movement makers and making sure this issue is addressed and is reaching global attention. Let’s do our part to help.
Have you ever fell victim to one of these responses towards a rape victim?? Then you are apart of the problem.
“But what was she wearing?”
“The lady must have dressed skimpily.”
“What was she doing in his house?
“Girls must stop allowing themselves to get raped.”
How Black men must protect Black women:
Stop degrading Black women. Insensitive Black girl jokes about skin color, hair, body types, and trauma are not funny
Stop feeding into stereotypes. Perpetuating stereotypes of Black women is detrimental to us all.
Stop the oversexualization of Black women. They aren’t objects of pleasure. They are human beings.
Call out your ‘friends’ for insensitive jokes and for being disrespectful towards Black women. (P.S. stop being friends with them)
When you see Black women being disrespected, stand up for them. Rally behind them, and support them. Help give them a voice that we all as humans deserve to have.
Don’t just tweet about it, get active in real life. Actively protect Black women EVERY single day of your life.
SOURCE: Instagram–> @agbaramagazine